The Parenting Reset We All Need
Edition 17
Parenting is a sacred mission, but no one ever said it would be straightforward. Some days feel like progress, others like survival.
We carry the past, worry about the future and often forget to breathe in the present.
Growth in parenting comes the willingness to reset when needed. Here’s how to begin that reset,
1. If you keep carrying old bricks, you’ll keep building the same house
Sometimes we parent from places we haven’t healed from,
we speak in voices we inherited,
we repeat cycles without realising.
But parenting is not just about raising children — it’s about raising ourselves. If we want our children to build with strength, we need to examine what we’ve been carrying.
Is it time to lay down some bricks?
2. The Past Is in Your Head — The Future Is in Your Hands
Perhaps you’re parenting through guilt.
Maybe your own childhood wasn’t ideal.
Maybe you feel you’ve already made mistakes.
But the most powerful thing you can do for your child is to show them what it looks like to change direction, even mid-journey.
3. Planning expects order. Preparation expects chaos
As parents, we love a good plan.
Meal plans. Study plans. Weekend schedules.
But life — as we know — doesn’t always go according to plan.
True resilience comes from preparation — spiritually, emotionally, mentally.
We teach our kids how to do ablution (wudū)’, how to pray, how to speak the truth — not because life will always be smooth, but because storms will come. And they need anchors, not just maps.
4. When fishermen can’t sail, they repair their nets
Not every season will be active. Some days feel like we’re stuck indoors, progress stalled. But that doesn’t mean we stop.
We use the quiet moments to reconnect with our children. We check in with ourselves. We realign with Allah.
Parenting isn’t always loud and busy — sometimes it’s quiet maintenance that shapes the future.
5. The cage is open. You can walk out anytime
If something in you is yearning to change — your routine, your parenting style, your relationship with your child, your connection to Allah — know this: The cage is open.
Growth begins when you give yourself permission to start again.
You’re not stuck. You’re being invited to move forward — brick by brick.
6. These Mountains Were Meant to Be Climbed, Not Carried.
As parents, we often carry burdens — fear, worry, comparison, guilt. But those mountains aren’t ours to drag forever.
Struggle is part of the journey. But Allah never burdens a soul beyond what it can bear.1
When it gets heavy, take a moment. Rest in the remembrance of Allah. And then keep climbing.
May Allah grant us clarity in our roles, mercy in our homes, and barakah in our efforts.
Surah Al-Baqarah - 2:286 (لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا)